Warning: Heavy Post
I have to warn you up front, this post is going to be heavy and vague, but I must vent to you. Have you ever had your ideas about someone shattered in a moment's notice? Have you ever looked at someone and realized you don't know them at all? I'm not talking about hubby so don't worry. Have you ever watched someone take all they have worked for and just throw it away? It's painful. It's heartbreaking. What do you do? What do you say?
2 comments:
Coming from a man's stand point, my first inclination is to put my tool belt on solve the problem for them. But as a married man for almost 10 years, my wife has taught me that there are times that we, as men, just need to listen. Do know why they threw or are throwing it all away. Do you know what their motivation is? If you don't, then that is defiantly place to start. You might gleam a bit of information that will leave you with fewer questions and be able to stand by their sides as they go through this transition. If you do know the reason, maybe tell them what you see from your perspective and see what their reaction is. Either way you are taking an interest in their life and they should be proud to have you as a friend.
Thanks for the wisdom. The frustrating part is I understand the reasoning, I just don't agree with it. I want to be loving and a display of God's love. I have no control and can only watch to see how the drama plays out. It will be an effort to keep pride and self-righteousness out of my heart. But it is there, laying outside of my door, waiting for the right moment to pounce on me and ravage my heart and mind with thoughts of judgment and criticism. What I really need right now, is a huge inoculation of God's love, grace, and compassion. Pray that I get it?
Coming from a man's stand point, my first inclination is to put my tool belt on solve the problem for them. But as a married man for almost 10 years, my wife has taught me that there are times that we, as men, just need to listen. Do know why they threw or are throwing it all away. Do you know what their motivation is? If you don't, then that is defiantly place to start. You might gleam a bit of information that will leave you with fewer questions and be able to stand by their sides as they go through this transition. If you do know the reason, maybe tell them what you see from your perspective and see what their reaction is. Either way you are taking an interest in their life and they should be proud to have you as a friend.
Thanks for the wisdom. The frustrating part is I understand the reasoning, I just don't agree with it. I want to be loving and a display of God's love. I have no control and can only watch to see how the drama plays out. It will be an effort to keep pride and self-righteousness out of my heart. But it is there, laying outside of my door, waiting for the right moment to pounce on me and ravage my heart and mind with thoughts of judgment and criticism. What I really need right now, is a huge inoculation of God's love, grace, and compassion. Pray that I get it?
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